Friday, May 18, 2012

Debating

Back in the day when I thought getting pregnant would be as simple as stopping BC and BD'ing I had thought about how I wanted to let our families know. I knew I wouldn't be able to keep much of a secret from my parents and brother nor Matt's parents. Yet I wanted some cute way to tell our extended family and of course the all important Facebook. Well obviously I had plenty of time deciding on how I wanted to tell, when I wanted to tell and who I was going to first. During this time I realized that I will not be putting u/s pictures on Facebook (does Facebook get a capital F or not?). Don't get me wrong, if that is how you want to share your news or keep people updated I am not judging but I just know for me I won't be doing that. Now that I (God willing) will be able to share my news, in due time, I'm debating on whether or not to mention something about struggling with IF. In a way it would be outing me which anymore doesn't seem to bother me. I have gained some courage since seeing those 2 pink lines and don't immediately shut down anymore when someone mentions babies, getting pregnant etc etc. I know it doesn't bother Matt it was just another hurdle that we had to overcome in his eyes so it won't matter if I mention it or not. For those of you who haven't "outed" yourself yet when you do announce your pregnancy will you? Or has that thought not even crossed your mind. I will say work is super duper slow right now so I do have a lot of extra time to sit around and think about this stuff!

I am 4w2d and am bloated to all get out. I know a lot of it is from the prometrium which is fine I will take it and if it is an excuse to wear yoga pants all the time well I am all in! I am also super exhausted. Going to bed at 8pm sounds magnificent and the other day I took an hour and half nap after work. Going out and taking a nap in my car has been suggested to me but not one I have done yet, emphasis on yet. I also have all day sickness not just morning sickness which is still fine. I will take it because to me it stops me from eating junk (always a positive) and it gives me a sense of calmness that I still am pregnant. Now if only June 4th would hurry up and get here!!

I am keeping all of you in my prayers, the ones who are in the early stages of pregnancy, the ones who have upcoming Dr appointments and the ones still waiting their turn which will come soon!

11 comments:

  1. Interesting post! I have been thinking a lot about that same question, filling people in on our struggles and my answer has changed quite a bit, a year ago I would have said no way, why bother. But now, It has impacted my life so much, from my own experiences to following fellow bloggers experiences. Its such a huge thing that no one ever talks about! So my answer would be yes, I would fill them in on our struggles to get to where we will be! and Im with ya, on not posting US pics on FB not for me either! :D Happy 4 weeks!

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    1. I have noticed too that my answer has already changed. Friday night we told my Aunt who was in from DC and before I even realized I had mentioned seeing a specialist. I was kind of shocked I said it but it really didn't bother me, in fact I was kind of proud in a way that I can admit that we had an issue and we worked through it.

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  2. I have been thinking about this, too, even before we got the shock of our lives! Because I was expecting to need surgery before getting pregnant, I thought I would at least mention that to people when we shared our news. Now, even though I hopefully won't need that surgery before having a successful pregnancy (we are still SOOOO nervous, can you tell?), I want to share our struggle with people. From some statuses I've seen on Facebook over the last year or so, I am pretty sure one of my cousins is struggling with secondary infertility (and a lot of depression because of it) and a high school friend (who I only really keep in touch with on Facebook now) is struggling to get pregnant with her first. I want to share our experience so that 1. people who are struggling don't feel so alone 2. people without fertility issues can maybe become more sensitive to people struggling and 3. I can share some of the great resources and information I have found over that last 2 years. I have books people may want to borrow, Circle + Bloom's fertility meditation CDs (which I LOVE), and actually just got my "Restoring Fertility" yoga dvd in the mail a couple of days ago(I ordered it in the morning of the very day I got our positive pregnancy test but didn't cancel the order out of fear that things might not work out).

    Also, I will not be posting ultrasound photos or belly pictures on Facebook. I bet I would have if it hadn't taken us nearly 2 years to get here, but now I want to be respectful to any women who are still waiting their turn. Seeing those photos when you are still in the trenches can really make a person feel so down and hopeless, you know?

    We haven't told many people yet at all (my best friend and older sister are the only ones who know besides us and our doctor at this point). We hope to tell parents and siblings sometime after our first ultrasound and then tell the everyone else after we've made it through the first trimester. It will be hard not to tell some of our friends until July (!) so we'll see if we change our minds after finding out how things look on the ultrasound next month.

    I hope things continue to go well for you, Megan! For your nausea have you tried sucking on hard candy? I know you don't want to have too much sugar while pregnant, but it worked for my sister and one of my sisters-in-law. My sister just got Jolly Ranchers and my SIL bought those Preggie Pop Drops that are supposed to have more of a sour taste to them (I've seen them at Target and they sell them on Amazon, too). A co-worker had lemon drops and I've heard ginger candy can help, too! Or there are also Psi bands (http://www.amazon.com/Psi-Bands-Acupressure-Wrist-Band/dp/B000X9V2H8/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1337371466&sr=1-2) that use pressure points on your wrists to help with nausea (2 of my co-workers used those last fall in early pregnancy).

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    1. I know of a couple people that I went to HS with that are struggling or were struggling with IF along with some others I think might be. I agree maybe if I had been the naive person and not understanding of the struggles I would have been u/s belly shots, complaining etc etc but now I embrace feeling sick to my stomach, being exhausted and having 1 pair of jeans! We have told more than I would probably like at this point but it is hard! The facebook world won't be knowing till my first trimester or there abouts. I will have to look into the hard candy thing thanks for the tips!

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  3. June will be here before you know it!! Hope the all day sickness goes away soon, but if it makes you feel like the pregnancy is more real, hope it sticks around a while :) thinking of you!

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    1. Thanks Lindsay, hope you are still hanging in there! July will be here before you know it too!!

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  4. Car naps at work - so funny! I will admit to having done a few of those in the past ... without the good excuse of being pregnant. I'm glad you're bloated, nauseous, and tired - they are all great signs!

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    1. My boss is the one who suggested it to me because she did that back when she was pregnant! Never in my life have I been more excited to be nauseous!

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  5. Congrats on your pregnancy (if I haven't told you already). I've been on a blog surfing hiatus. Needed a break from all things infertility. I vote to ot yourself. It brings awareness to the disease and may encourage someone else just starting on this journey.

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  6. Thank you! I understand the need for a break. After thinking more about it and the comments from you ladies I have decided to "out" myself when Matt and I do decide to tell the Facebook world.

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  7. Yes, when exactly we're going to tell people is still up-in-the-air, but we do plan on letting people know what we've been through to get here. Mostly I know that I likely have friends who are or will go through these struggles and I want them to be able to ask us questions, comisserate, whatever they need.

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