Monday, August 6, 2012

My Heart is Breaking...

(This post was started about 3 weeks ago when everything went down but I just haven't had the heart to finish it because I thought maybe things had settled down but sadly they have not)

for Matt. When we are young we all dream about what we want to be when we grow up. Some of us may still be trying to figure it out but for Matt it has never changed. From early on he knew he wanted to be a farmer. He loved working with his hands, seeing what your hard work can produce and the satisfaction that he would get to do it again next year. Now being a mechanic also came like second nature to him and since a farmer has to wear many hats, being a mechanic seemed perfect.

Fast forward to now where he does own some land of his own but the big chunk of the farm still belongs to his grandpa and his grandpa gets 50% and Matt and his dad each get 25%. The trust is set up so that when his grandpa passes away whoever is farming the land has first dibs on it at a predetermined price. Anyways back in June when we had that storm the barn roof was damaged. Not damaged beyond fixing, just needing a new roof. Well his grandpa decided (in my opinion) that it was better to pocket the insurance money than to fix the barn and told Matt and his dad that they need to get rid of all the cattle. Now there were some older cows that probably did need to go and those didn't tear Matt up as much as the load he took last week that had the young cows along with some fresh heifers. When he came home it took everything he had to not break down. The hurt in his eyes was gut wrenching. It was the same look in his eyes when all of this started going down and he did break down and cry. I don't know about you guys but Matt never cries. He might get upset but when there are tears it must be bad.

Now my opinion on the situation is that there are 7 kids in his dads family and out of the 7 kids his dad is the oldest. I think some of the other kids are jealous because they feel that Matt and his dad are getting more from Grandpa than they are. His grandpas 2nd wife also passed away in January I believe so he has no one to occupy his time and has become basically unbearable. This is the main reason that I HATE family farms. I have seen more families broke up over ground than is really necessary because at the end of the day it is just dirt.

Whew it feels a lot better to get that all off my chest. I debated on whether to post about it or not and I knew facebook was not going to be the place because people that air their dirty laundry on facebook is a huge pet peeve of mine.

On a happy note, my blood pressure did return to normal and vacation is only 2 days away!


  1. Wow I am really sorry to hear that Megan. Sometimes families can be your worst enemy. Hopefully your vacation will help out for some relaxation time.

    1. For the most part I try and stay out because it isn't my family but sometimes I just want to wring his grandpas neck! Vacation can't come soon enough at 4:30 today.

  2. Wow, that is really sad for Matt and his Dad. I'm so sorry you have to deal with family crap like this- it makes everything else hard! I'm hoping Grandpa turns a corner soon.

    Also, don't scare us with a post title like that!! :)My heart stopped beating for a second!

    1. Sorry to scare you! Now that I do see it, yea it would make my heart skip a beat if I read that on someone elses!